Marooned in No Man’s Land – a nursing home


 

This post first appeared in American Thinker Marooned in No Man’s Land: A nursing home on May 13, 2020 and I thank them.

I now know what living was like for Robinson Crusoe….no, not shipwrecked nor floundered on some shoals. But a victim of cruel circumstances.

After decades of toil I retired. An over 55 retirement community became my destination.  Lovely grounds right out of a story book. Activities that would put a cruise ship to shame. Extensive dining room options. Farm to table. What could be better?

That is where the good part of the saga ends.

See, this over 55 retirement community comes complete with what is called  “continuing care”  “home care” “assisted living” – and what is known as a “nursing home.”

Thus all the mandates government imposed on “nursing homes” fell upon the entire community as well as the management wanting to keep us “safe” they say.

I can be charitable and say what is being done is in our best interest. If not I can say it is a cruel measure being perpetuated upon the voiceless.

The “shelter in place” notion is no less harmful than the virus itself. Essentially everyone is locked down. Socializing? Nope. The cruise has ended. We are no more than inmates.  Meals being delivered with a knock on the door by a faceless person with a mask  and wearing purple gloves that makes them unrecognizable. They drop the package of food – our meals on the floor. Because you see, there can be no human contact.They scamper away long before one can get to the door.

The bus trips for “excursions”  to faraway places have long ended. The bus shuttles that run several times a a week into town to get whatever we need has ended as well. Remember, this is for our own good. We are not to visit our fellow humans. No outsiders are allowed in. We are not allowed out. No family members. No one who isn’t required to keep us alive. If what we are doing is living.

I have exhausted Amazon Prime and Netflix movies. At least the ones I am interested in. I am a lucky one. I have binged. I am able to amuse myself. At least to a point.

I am one of the lucky ones. I like to think I still have my faculties. I have a car and able to drive. I can escape.

Spiritual care called.They asked if I had talked to anyone. They could set up face time. That was nice. Did I need anything? Nope.

I didn’t watch the COVID hearing last week. I wondered if it was a sign of depression. They warned us about that. Perhaps because it would be pouring salt in my wound.This COVID thing. They might discuss nursing homes and the need for additional draconian measures to keep us safe.

Perhaps a sign of my potential xenophobia… When I saw Trump at the latest presser attacked because he suggested the “reporter” (some kid there to hassle him) she ask China for the answer to her question. (She was Asian don’t you know) I thought yes… I could resent this China thing. Big time.

But I digress from my point. The designated nursing home.

Killing with kindness…

Those whose husband or wife who now lives in our designated nursing home but their loved one still has a cottage or apartment cannot visit their partner in the nursing home. Those who live in the designated nursing home are essentially not permitted outside of their room. No communal meals.

Thus little physical activity or mental stimulation. None of the group activities that give meaning to daily living. Loneliness that is a proven killer.

Just whom are we saving for what?

In a study of elderly Americans who moved to a nursing home for their final months or years of life, 65 percent died there within one year, according to an investigation by researchers at the San Francisco VA Medical Center and the University of California, San Francisco.
“One quarter of all deaths in the United States occur in nursing homes, and that figure is expected to rise to 40 percent by the year 2020,” says Smith.Smith describes the average and median length of stay before death as “surprisingly brief.”
The average age of participants when they moved to a nursing home was about 83. The average length of stay before death was 13.7 months, while the median was five months. Fifty-three percent of nursing home residents in the study died within six months.

Men died after a median stay of three months, while women died after a median stay of eight months. Married participants died a median four months sooner than those who were unmarried.

The implication, he says, is that “we need to engage nursing home residents in planning conversations about end-of-life care and treatment preferences very soon after they are admitted. We have only a brief amount of time to address their concerns before they become seriously ill.”

I can assure you that isolating these poor souls for the months they have remaining on this mortal coil is not in their game plan.

Robinson Crusoe by William Defoe:

“I cannot explain, by any possible energy of words, what a strange longing or hankering of desires I felt in my sould….O that there had been but one or two; nay, or but one soul sav’d out of this ship, to have escap’d to me, and to have convers’d with! In all the time of my solitary life, I never felt so earnest, so strong a desire after the society of my fellow-creatures, or so deep a regret at the want of it.”

This is what the swamp looks like on the inside looking out.

Fox’s Janice Dean who lost both her mother-in-law and father-in-law in a nursing home to the virus:

Translation: ‘Not my fault even though I approved the order that recovering corona virus patients could go back into nursing and assisted living homes. And then it spread like wildfire to the most vulnerable people that we are supposed to be protecting…’”

That’s all folks.

 

37 Responses to “Marooned in No Man’s Land – a nursing home”

  1. kidme37 Says:

    You make very good points. I’ve read that everyone will get this at some point so asknig what’s the point for people who want to go out as normal knowing the risks is a valid concept imo.

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    • bunkerville Says:

      Not much different than the flu as far as fatalities. The dirty secret is apparently they are just letting these patients in nursing homes die and not sending most of them to the hospital…yes, they send Covid patients to nursing homes but then what? Just let them die that catch it? The danger of a DNR– do not resuscitate.
      I was told here in the retirement community they will not do CPR because too many have DNR’s.. I have yet to see an ambulance rush in.. No AED’s here as well.

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  2. Mustang.Koji Says:

    Reblogged this on Masako and Spam Musubi and commented:
    My thoughts exactly. Cruel decisions by Democratic “leadership”. They choose to release incarcerated inmates for fear they will “get sick and die” then some go on to commit even more crimes shortly after release. Yet, they sentence nursing home residents to cruel punishment at the end of their lives. Jail time in reverse on good people!

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  3. geeez2014 Says:

    This is horrible and sad, Bunkerville….I’d have thought the physical divisions I know exist between the varying degrees of ‘care’ would lend themselves to quarantining the most susceptible…
    Also, regarding the Chinese reporter….I watched that live when Trump said “Ask China that question!” She coyly lowered her mask so EVERYONE COULD SEE SHE WAS CHINESE…and said “Why are you saying that TO ME!” Stunning…
    In his defense, he seemed not to even get what she meant and continued “…I’m asking everyone HERE to ask China that question”. I firmly believe he’s so NON racist that he didn’t even get what she’d meant by that comment.

    ANyway….hang in there. Your being HERE is important to us all and I thank you for your amazing mind, terrific input, and excellent way you present the points you make here ….

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    • bunkerville Says:

      You are very kind Z… yea, I got the drop of the face mask as well. Well this is quite an unexpected turn here in my golden years, but this too shall pass. No so much in the nursing homes. There.must be a way of them being able to socialize without threat. Somehow, someway if even if their family must be tested before seeing them. Has to be., This is cruel and unfair.

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      • geeez2014 Says:

        It is cruel and I heard that, in Canada at least, family members can’t even ‘visit’ a beloved elderly patient THROUGH A WINDOW! Imagine? Yes, hopefully, family members won’t even need testing (they never did for the flu, did they!), but no big deal to having a quick temperature check at the door…. YOU are the only person who noticed the ‘drop of the mask’…cracked me UP, didn’t it you? So transparent. Bunk, what do you think of the pres having written A$$ Hole (but correctly spelling it) in a tweet last night about Neil Cavuto? My readers don’t mind ONE BIT and it astonishes me….I am no goody two shoes but even I don’t like to say that..I THINK IT but I don’t say it!!!

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      • bunkerville Says:

        I think Cavuto’s M.S. has hit his brain… I happened to be watching….he wouldn’t let up… he kept asking him over and over….. his cuteness got him through before… not so much now.

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    • Ed Bonderenka Says:

      Trump got exactly what the asian reportress asked.
      He’s not stupid.
      And he answered her precisely.

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  4. Mustang Says:

    I seem to remember reading that the British imposed house arrest on the citizens of Boston once; it didn’t work out too well. It must have been a matter of timing. If the British had only waited until 2020 to do it, the American Revolution might have turned out differently … in their favor. We are Americans. We do not need to ask the governor(s) “pretty please” to acknowledge our inalienable rights. We already have those rights, and no one can take them away from us. Still, it is up to us to assert them; otherwise, what is the point of having them?

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    • hocuspocus13 Says:

      Why would the American People want to “revolt” when they’re getting more money on Unemployment then working 9 to 5

      And extra $600 each week on Unemployment

      Which I read was an “error” on the CARES ACT

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    • bunkerville Says:

      The wise Congress made sure that those not able to work due to the shutdown would make more not working than working. Laying fallow with more money does not encourage the peasants getting restless and demand from their jailers to let them out.
      It will be far too late for them to realize that their employers will be long gone after the gravy train runs out. But then again isn’t that the point of the matter. Tear down the society and build it from the bottom up.. think it was something like that.

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      • Mustang Says:

        This is a first to me. I’ve never heard the expression “wise congress” used before, not even in jest. Still, it is a teaching moment for those still beating the drum for a convention of states. Given what we know about (too) many state governors, a convention of states could be an utter disaster for the American people.

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      • bunkerville Says:

        A year or two ago I know the GOP had the majority of state governments and much talk but now I would not touch it with a ten foot pole…

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      • hocuspocus13 Says:

        I do believe the end of the gravy train for unemployment is the end of June

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      • bunkerville Says:

        HP.. then the question will be will they turn on the government or demand they continue the largesse or bit the bitter pill… my guess many will be be like the baby birds and demand to be fed.. forever..

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      • hocuspocus13 Says:

        Good Question

        The Answer lies in the NEW 3 Trillion Dollar Stimulus Bill

        Nervous Nancy is trying to put into Law

        Which would leave the American People on a virtual vacation!

        No need to work
        No need to open

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      • bunkerville Says:

        HP. The ultimate hoax…

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    • peter3nj Says:

      “All men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights like life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” These rights cannot be bartered away, or given away, or taken away except in punishment of crime.
      Au’contraire. Haven’t those on the democrat plantation acceded to bartering away their nuclear family, their dignity, haven’t they been duped into believing they are caretakers of a slave trading African culture that was stolen by the white racists (read republican) who will forever keep them down? So then should we believe that while our inalienable rights can’t be taken away they sure as hell can, in essence, be surrendered to the government for a bag of peanuts? Unless of course living on the fatherless apartment on the 17th floor of a subsidized ghetto high rise flooded by urine and drug dealers in the hallways and inter generational poverty is happiness why then our taxpayer dollars are well spent.

      “If you have a lot of self control, you don’t need a lot of government control.”
      – Thomas Sowell

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  5. Linda Says:

    Please, I implore you not to mention Cuomo again. We house arrest folks have had enough of him here. Phase 1 he says? HA! Balony. Wear a mask out he says, again HA! But, its mandated he says. Again, HA. You must wear a mask and it will remain so indef.! He says. I have asthma, and I have had enough. I was just reading about his mandate/ Executive Order in concerns to those who have issues such as asthma or COPD. I also know that the likes of Walmart or whomever can not stop you or even ask WHY one is not wearing a mask. Oh, you can tell them, but according to HIPPA laws, all you have to say, “I have asthma.” It ends there. I shall try this Friday when I have to go to the store (my husband, “Your going to be arrested and kicked out of the store”). Try me. My patience is very thin at this point. March 3 we have been under house arrest, enough of the shenigans. If you want to wear a mask and have that false sense of security, be my guest, just don’t lecture me (and I will do the same).

    He can take a flying leap out the window for all I care.

    “Cruel measure being perpetuated upon the voiceless”-indeed. This is cruel for anyone, especialy those who can not leave the assisisted, nursing or over 55 retirement communities. Power hungry leaders, especially those in democratic blue states.

    I am sorry Bunk…truly I am.

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    • bunkerville Says:

      Thanks Linda… I wrote this at a low point… fortunately I have means of connecting with my friends outside the community.. but not enough attention is being placed on how the nursing home folks are suffering greatly in the final months of their lives. My neighbor is over 90 with his wife in the nursing home. He has not seen her in all this time and they were never apart in 70 years.
      Yes, time for you to move on out of “I love NY.”!!

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      • Linda Says:

        welllllllllllll…sure there are jobs, but unfort. IF I have a job interview out of NY I would be quarantined for 2 weeks, YEP. BECAUSE NY IS STILL TECHINICALLY ON PAUSE! YEP TRUTH!

        I feel bad for you neighbor and you. I know you wrote this at a “low point” and I think its safe to say, us folks who are in forever house arrest, have had enough. Everyone knows sunshine is the best medicine, you can’t even walk out your door, Bunk?

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      • bunkerville Says:

        No doubt NY is the state to move out of.. find a new “forever” home.. LOL

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      • Linda Says:

        welllllllll…until the never ending NY Pause is lifted…sigh.

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    • hocuspocus13 Says:

      Cuomo EO no HCQ for CoVid Treatment

      I must say that Cuomo has NO idea what he’s doing

      Liked by 5 people

  6. hocuspocus13 Says:

    We are all “isolated poor souls” not knowing how much time we have left in this mortal world…
    💚
    Release Us…
    💚
    Let us live our lives as we see fit
    💚
    I’ll take my chances as I always have

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  7. A Lady of Reason Says:

    The fact Covid positive patients were put with the most vulnerable shows the left’s utter hypocrisy and reprehensible act …
    https://aladyofreason.wordpress.com/2020/05/18/these-circumstances-may-be-new-but-they-must-never-be-considered-normal/

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