In Search Of: Common Sense by Mustang
Over the past several weeks, all of us have been subjected to a growing list of women who claim they are victims of improper sexual behavior by prominent men. By ‘prominent men,’ I mean very rich and influential people in the government, media, and in the television and film industry. By ‘industry,’ I do not mean to suggest that they produce anything worthwhile. Equally prominent women have united around the hash tag ‘me too.’
In any case, the allegations are disturbing. From news reporting and social media, one might assume that every other man one happens to meet on the street is a rapist. No doubt such do men exist; I only wonder if the problem is as prevalent as the media would have us believe. Moreover, I have to question whether the problem is as one-sided as the women (and Gloria Allred) would like for us to believe.
The accusations, by the way, at least so far, include actresses in the United States, the United Kingdom, and Russia —and one White House intern. Recently, Hollywood actress Ashley Judd stated that masher Harvey Weinstein gave her this option: succumb to my advances, or I’ll rape you. Judd, being an astute business woman, negotiated. She decided to have sex with this man in exchange for opportunities to earn millions in the film industry. If this account is true, then Weinstein was behaving like a pig —and if true, then what should we conclude about the behavior of Ms. Judd?
Yes, it is true that men behave poorly, but women behave badly as well. Whatever happened to the option of refusing such advances? In other words, saying ‘no.’ Would Judd’s career have suffered? Perhaps, but then these women ought to know that beyond a three-digit emergency number, there are hundreds of starving attorneys who would love to litigate such allegations —especially when the accusation involves massively wealthy and enormously influential men.
And then, of course, we have a woman who was paid to discredit the victims of sexual assault by Harvey Weinstein. According to press reports, Attorney Lisa Bloom was paid by Weinstein to question the veracity of his accusers, often failing to reveal that she was on Weinstein’s payroll. Who is Lisa Bloom? She’s the daughter of Gloria Allred.
There is no excuse for men like Weinstein, but I ponder … perhaps actresses have been saying ‘yes’ for far too many years. It could also be true that some women actually encourage or enable piggish behavior. To me, solving this problem is no more than a matter of common sense, or in the case of women like Ashley Judd, skill as a negotiator and a willingness to acknowledge their own character flaws.